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We all can’t be that girl. You know, that girl, always the center of attention, enjoying life and letting all of us lesser mortals enjoy being in her limelight for the few hours of a party. But, what if some fairy godmother waved her magic wand and for one night, or, dare I say it, forever, that girl could be you?
Wake up, girlfriend! There aren’t fairy godmothers anymore, and if you want to work it, you’re going to have to work for it. Gather up your girdle, peel yourself away from that comfortable wall and that oh-so-fascinating pot plant and get out there to enjoy yourself and see what you can do!
Preparation is the key. Physically, you can look the part. Hot dress, hot shoes, fab hair, it can all be done. External is minimal. The shine, the glow, that comes from you, and that does not need as much work as you’d think. So prepare some conversational topics beforehand but watch out for these five stages of a conversation:
- Opening line: “Hi/hello/good evening”
- Introductions: “My name is ____, I’m a friend of_____, and you are?”
- Try out your simple yet interesting conversational topics –newsy, but nothing that could offend anyone, so try and find some common ground first
- Closure – “well, I’m certain I’ll see you later, have a great time”
Also, when talking to people, be knowledgeable, but no one’s expecting you to be an authority. Contribute with comments without trying to impress others, and do not, under any circumstances, be judgmental, even if you want to. It’s just not polite. People will feel much more comfortable and open if they know they are not in danger of being criticized.
If you arrive early at the party you will put less pressure on yourself, and you can meet people on your terms. Try to look comfortable and chat to different people for short periods of time. Even if
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you have the same conversation with different people it doesn’t matter much, it’s just your first round and there is the rest of the night to try out different topics on different people, or just return to the most interesting group or those that you feel comfortable with.
When you’re at the party, make sure you look relaxed and approachable. If you look aloof or nervous it would make people not want to approach you. To attract people, practice that million dollar smile in the mirror and on close friends. Even strangers when you’re walking on the street, just practice, practice, practice… stand tall and attract others by being attractive!
The approach: you’re as nervous as hell, but it would be worth it! When you’re going up to people, just think about a moment when you felt really good and confident about yourself. Let that feeling warm you, relax you, and that will show outwardly. Eye contact is also very important. It is essential when making a great first impression and showing someone respect. It shows that your attention is on them, but also that you’re confident within yourself.
There are many ways to come out of yourself to show the world what a wonderful person you are. You don’t have to be overly confident, and you certainly don’t have to be that girl if you don’t want to be. Being at ease with yourself and who you are on the inside is the key to maintaining self-confidence and pride, leading you to conduct yourself with dignity. This in itself will attract people to you like bees to honey!
Article by: Thevani Maduray
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